Sunday, 22 April 2018
3 Fast Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
If you're reading this article, chances are the woman you love has walked out of your life. Or even worse, she is sending you mixed messages and deep down in your gut you think that she might be cheating on you. Trust me, I know the feeling. The gut wrenching, stomaching turning, you feel like you're going to throw up feeling.
You send her a text and she doesn't respond. When she finally does respond its hours (or days) later - only to have some lame excuse. Your mind shifts into over-drive, your palms start to sweat, and you feel the pressure in your head ready to explode. She's lying to you and you know it. The problem is that although these feelings are troubling you and you can't control them - there is nothing that you can do about it. Your mood and attitude shifts from anger, bitterness, sadness, guilt, worry, and back again to anger.
Have I painted the picture pretty well? The reason I'm able to pinpoint the exact range of emotions is because I've been there. Not once, not twice, but three times with three different women. Each time the circumstances were different, but the emotions and feelings were exactly the same. Bottom line is that it sucked and I wanted it to stop. I wanted to regain control of my emotions and feel the sort of power and confidence I had when we first started dating.
The first 2 times I struggled through the process month after month only to have time eventually remove my pain. Finally on the 3rd and worst of the breakups, I decided that months of pain and torture was too much to endure. So I decided to seek answers, get help, and this pain quickly. I researched and I read everything that I could get my hands on. Within a very short period of time, I was able to shorten the recovery period and get back to my old self fairly quickly. The best part of recovering fast was that I was able to regain my swagger before she had time to become to become serious with anyone else.
Guess what happened? She came back! This time she came back on my terms and was now chasing me. I won't share with you my ultimate decision of whether I took her back or not as you need to chart your own destiny. But what I will share with you is the 3 principles I used to get my ex girlfriend back fast.
1. Love yourself first - Who in this world will love you more than you? At an early age we are taught to think of others first, to be polite and courteous to others. Although this is true for the most part, it's important to understand that all is fair in love and war. At this point your ex in not thinking of your best interest, therefore you better make sure that YOU are. What this means is stop thinking about and missing her, but instead start thinking about you and how you're going to improve you.
2. Show yourself some self respect - Self defeating, insecure words and actions will only do more harm than good. When someone is thinking emotionally or acting out of emotion your words will have little to no effect on them. At this point, less is more. If they said that they want to end it, then so be it - it is done.
I know its hurtful to think of it as being over, but just remember anything you do out of your usual personality to beg them back is not the strong confident man that she fell in love with. Remember, confidence is attractive and if you want to stand any chance of getting your ex girlfriend back, you do not want to show her a weak and insecure side of yourself.
3. Fake it until you break it - Although you may be dying inside, you can not show any signs of weakness. All too often guys make the mistake of trying to get the sympathy vote. They figure that if they act pathetic or sad enough that their ex girlfriend will feel sorry for them and take them back. Sorry Charlie, confidence is king and confidence is the most attractive trait women find sexy in a man.
What this means for you is that you have to hide your pain. Bury it deep inside and go on with your life. Be careful not to cocky, arrogant, or over compensate for your pain. Just be who you are, but don't show your pain. At the end of the day, it's a good idea to let that pain out. So go for a run, lift some weights, or hit a heavy bag until you're exhausted. But never let your ex girlfriend see your pain.
I know this sounds all too simplistic and easy to actually work, but believe me it works. Sure there are a million other little things that you can do along the way, but these 3 pillars are the foundation for any successful attempt to get your ex girlfriend back.
Why does it work? That's a good question and I am glad you asked. Here is the short answer. As humans we need to be needed and we always want what we can't have. The fact that your ex girlfriend placed you on the shelf and may or may not be seeing someone new means that she herself has to run the risk of losing you. The more you beg her and chase her, the more she can have her cake and eat it too.
The minute you stop chasing her, you force her to think about what she's doing. She will be confused and will often test you just to see if you're still receptive to her. The less of a response she gets from you, the harder she will start trying to get back what she can't have. Remember, it's human nature to want what we can't have - so stop making yourself so available and soon you can have what it is that you want, which is getting your ex girl friend back.
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